Men's Memes: Vanity double standards

Saturday, May 19, 2007

Vanity double standards

He's become a global laughing stock after posing cheesy pictures of himself half-naked on the internet.

One thing women seem to loathe in a man is if he is vain. But take a look at profiles women put up on dating sites, social networking sites etc. You won't have to look far before you find provocative photos, or references to themselves as a 'princess' and similar.

2 comments:

Mirror Of The Soul said...: If arrogance is oft the company of excellence, then vanity is oft the company of confidence. The greater sin is that he tried to look a certain way for a woman, not because of his own desire to improve himself as a person. Women look into the mirror and find everything that is ugly about them. Men look into the mirror and see everything that is beautiful about them. Women misconstrue this for vanity in men. The root cause is nobody can think of themselves more beautiful than a particular woman at a particular time because in doing so you reveal the woman's own hatred of herself before her, and in rage she accuses you of vanity or arrogance. Tough shit, lady, I am beautiful, a work of the gods themselves.; 1:50 pm
Anonymous said...: Well, perhaps this vanity in and of itself is a feminine trait. Then it would stand to reason that a woman would find this unattractive in a real man.

I personally suspect men who are obessesd with their looks to be latent homosexuals. That is, unless they are actually out and proud homosexuals. Because honey, we all know that they all (unfortunately) look better than most straight guys.

Also, women see these unattractive traits in themselves because of the airbrushed and anorexic fashion models they see in magazines.; 7:41 am

Turn of the tide: feminists begin to regret

Cosmopolitan (The women's magazine that urges women to use men for sex) Editor Lorraine Candy has a change of mind and now urges women not to have "Soul-less sex":

"We didn't feel ashamed about one-night stands...this, we thought, is what feminism is about."

70s feminist Fay Weldon now says:

"It is the fault of me and my like, who... got it wrong.

So were we wrong, we feminists, setting women free? The results have been devastating – greater than we ever imagined.

We steamed ahead, changing the world with too little caution, and I hope the future will forgive us.

The pendulum has swung too far over. But it may yet swing back again. Societies, thank God, tend to be self-righting."

"Once a man could look forward to starting a family and the dignity that came from being the provider. Forget it. At best as a man you're decorative, look after the kids and earn a bit sometimes; at worst you're a write-off. Women are elbowing the men out. The boys get anxious, the girls swagger. The male suicide rate goes up, female down. Twenty-eight per cent of us now live in single person households - a lonely and unnatural state - and most of the 28 per cent consist of young men. It is strange that it is left to a woman to suggest, in the normal nurturing way, that men start some kind of movement to promote their gender's status and self-esteem - call it masculinism, brotherism, machoism, what you want - and some mark of the success of the feminist movement, that it needs to be done."

60's feminist Doris Lessing now says:

"It is time we began to ask who are these women who continually rubbish men. The most stupid, ill-educated and nasty woman can rubbish the nicest, kindest and most intelligent man and no one protests.

Men seem to be so cowed that they can't fight back, and it is time they did."

An excerpt from an interview with Joan Rivers:

"She's not with the feminists when it comes to matters of the heart. For her, they're to blame for the current parlous state of our relationships, as depicted in these television Shows (Such as Sex in the city) and films. "I saw this coming. You cannot be equal to a man, you cannot make a man feel 'I don't need you' or 'I'll take my sex when I want it'. All these shows are so sad."

Camille Paglia :

"Women have been discouraged from genres such as sculpture that require studio training or expensive materials.

But in philosophy, mathematics, and poetry, the only materials are pen and paper.

Male conspiracy cannot explain ALL female failures.

I am convinced that, even without restrictions, there still would have been no female Pascal, Milton, or Kant.

. . . Even now, with all vocations open, I marvel at the rarity of the woman driven by artistic or intellectual obsession, that self-mutilating derangement of social relationship which, in its alternate forms of crime and ideation, is the disgrace and glory of the human species."